How To Be A SuperMom!!! ^_^

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Dah anak pun diberi gelaran "Cuperboy" oleh Shark haruslah mummy pun nak jadi SuperMummy kannn? Wargh kah kah, kalau tak mana datangnya "Cuperboy" tu kalau tak dilahirkan oleh SuperMummy...ahaksss...Tapi kalau kira2 dan hitung2 balik memang SuperMummy kot??? Most of the time, mummy yang handle Ash serba serbi... tak kira siang, tak kira malam, kecuali kalau mummy work lah kann??? Ha cerita tentang handle serba serbi tu, nanti kita kupas kemudian2 yer... Bila ada rasa nak bercerita dan bila ada mood ataupun harimau dikejutkan dari tidur...ahaksss...apakah??? Ok, kita abaikan... 

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Everyone has a different definition of what being a good mother means. Most of us feel that we do not meet our own high standards and think everyone else must be a SuperMom. We’re all trying to keep things together on the outside. But it’s what is going on internally and in our homes that actually determine what kind of mom we are. - bukan apa yang kita tunjuk2kan atau gebang2kan pada orang ek uolss...

When we imagine what a great mother might be, we can reminisce about a mother who has a hot meal straight out of the oven ready to place on a decked-out dinner table and kissing daddy as he walks in the door. The children are happy and mom looks great! Wait - stop… this is the twenty first century.

Being a Supermom has nothing to do with appearing to have it all together nor appearing to have it all. In fact what makes a mother a really exceptional supermom is one little four letter word - love. It is the love that a mother gives her children that actually make her Supermom. It’s not gifts, it’s not giving into every desire. It’s not buying something every time a child asks or buying things instead of spending quality time. Supermom is not rushing darling daughter and son off to too many activities and keeping the schedule crammed-packed. Rather, Supermothering is knowing when enough is enough. It is knowing that children need your emotional availability more than anything your money can buy. It’s simply playing with your children and being truly present and interested in their lives. Good mothering is accepting and loving your children no matter what. It is serving as an example for ethical and caring behavior and also maintaining a balance and knowing when mommy too needs time for herself. Good mothering is providing a safe haven where children can express their feelings and feel validated, even when they’re angry or afraid. These are the characteristics of good mothering.

It doesn’t take money to be a Supermom, it does not take material things. Nor does it mean you are perfect. It does not mean the world is without faults. Being a Supermom simply means that you connect with your child, that you love unconditionally and that you listen, something any mother can pretty easily do.  Adults who feel they have been mothered well look back fondly on the time they spent with their own Supermom. They remember her smile, her love, her interest in their life. They don’t remember the days, they remember the moments. They remember all the things that money can never buy.

It’s time to stop thinking everyone else is SuperMom, but never you. Supermom does exist, only not in the form you might have thought. We are all human and we all are doing the best we can. It’s ok that our kids see we are vulnerable; it’s OK if some days we are less than Super. It’s ok that we make mistakes and that we don’t have all the answers and that sometimes we get caught up in the emotion and yell. The important thing is that our children see we are authentic loving beings and that we are able to ask for forgiveness when we’re wrong. If you get angry, talk about it. Explain yourself, and say you’re sorry when you make a mistake. Embody all of what you would ask of your child. Work on your shortcomings, we all have them, even Supermoms like us.

One final word to those who would think that being a Supermom means giving into to even whim of a child. It certainly does not mean that. If the whim is in love and kindness, so be it. But children are growing too and also show very real signs of our own humaness - in its weakness and ego. It’s your job as a Supermom to show your child the correct path, which is the path of a happy, grateful heart filled with love and compassion for others. A child demanding something or trying to control you or others is not the time when you should be giving in - that would be misdirected love. Love in this instant would be refusing to give into a selfish demand because it is not truly good for your child or others.

Being a Supermom means consciously working at being the best person you can be, not only for your children’s benefit, but truly for your own. Children seem to be able to bring out the worst in us and they certainly also bring out our best. They can help us aspire to be and do things that we might not have the inner strength to otherwise do. Children inspire us to be the true Supermoms in the real sense of the term, armed with unconditional love and ready to give of ourselves - just the way we were born to be.

*Mellisa Dormoy is the founder of ShambalaKids Relaxation CD’s for kids and teens. Mellisa specializes in guided imagery and children and teen’s self-esteem.

Makanya, ingat yer, the keyword is LOVE dan menjadi SuperMommy bukanlah apa yang orang nampak di luar... tapi apa yang berlaku di antara kita dan anak2 di dalam rumah yang menentukan jenis mummy yang bagaimana kita ni... #notetoself #reminder #lesson...Kasih sayang kepada anak yang membuatkan anak kita akan ingat pada kita, bond antara kita dan anak, the way we treat them... something yang anak2 tak akan dapat dari mana2 kecuali kita, dan bila dah besar mereka sedar mereka tak boleh beli mummy di mana2...kitalah satu2nya SuperMummy bagi mereka... things that cannot be bought by money!!! Dan selalulah kita beringat bersama2, membelikan anak barang2, membawa anak ke sana ke mari melancong, mewahkan anak dengan macam2 adalah sekadar sampingan dan bukannya kriteria yang boleh menjadikan diri kita SuperMummy... barangan saja tanpa kasih sayang tak mencukupi...bila kasih sayang wujud dan ditambah dengan keperluan sampingan... barulah lengkap... 

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*Till then cheerios!!! *_^... Selamat menjadi SuperMummy semua... tapi iolss believe, kita semua adalah SuperMummy dengan cara kita yang tersendiri kan??? dan sudah semestinya kita nak menjadi seorang ibu  yang sentiasa ada untuk anak kita dalam apa jua keadaan.... A true motherly spirit giteww...